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RedCarDriver Moderators Posts: 1211 Location: United States Arizona Occupation: it's complicated... more complicated than my relationships Age: 30 V$: 86310	#1 2018-11-12 15:41
	Alright, I have something to tell all of you. I don't know how much you will care, but I felt I had to say it anyway. Some of you may have noticed that I've been taking steps to start using the name "RedCarDriver" on VS instead of what I had previously used. You also may have noticed that I don't tend to talk much about myself, even when some of you have asked me how I've been doing. Some of you may also remember that I disappeared from Facebook a long time ago. These are not coincidences. The truth is that I have been avoiding mentioning something for years, because I was afraid of what would happen if I said anything about it. I'm not afraid any more. And with current events in America being the way they are, I felt it was important to say something. The truth is that I, VStanced user RedCarDriver, am a transgender (transsexual) woman. My name is Lydia. Yes, you read that correctly. No, this is not a joke. I have been out to my family and on hormone replacement therapy since 2015, and my documentation (driver's license, etc) has listed my name as "Lydia" and my sex as female since 2016. This is for real, and this is not going away. For a long time, I thought about saying nothing. I also thought about trying to lie about it. I could have tried to pretend that I had inherited this account from my brother. I could have claimed I had been pretending to be someone else this entire time. (In a sense, I guess it's true that I have been pretending to be someone else, since I haven't really been that other guy for years - if I ever was him to begin with. I've always been Lydia. I just didn't know it for a long time, and other people didn't know it for even longer.) Today I have decided that I'm done hiding, and I don't want to try lying. If you can't be honest with people, what's the point? You - VStanced and the SLRR modding community - were the last people remaining who didn't know, and it was getting more and more ridiculous to put on a name I hadn't answered to for years anywhere else. Honestly, you all probably won't need to worry too much about this. I'm the same person I always have been. Now you just know a little bit more about me. If you didn't know a transgender person before today, now you do. And, hey, if this gets my mods removed from Modzona (because my existence is illegal in Russia, or something), I guess that's an acceptable loss. If you have (polite!) questions, feel free to ask. #WontBeErased ⚧ ████████████ ████████████ ████████████ ████████████ ████████████
	My Roleplay Thread Roleplay set roughly in a fictionalized version of Phoenix, Arizona. The time varies, with a lot of flashbacks / stories told through old photos as well as flash forwards to later times, but is intended to be one continuous story. My character is about 5 years older than myself, and considerably richer. lol. I have a couple of other made-up characters for the RP too. Current cars: - Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33 1996 S2) - Toyota Supra (JZA80 1993) - auto N/A; work in progress Shop drift car: Nissan Skyline GTS25t 2JZ Swap (ECR33 1994) Previous cars: - Nissan 240SX RHD Conversion / RB Swap - parted out - Pontiac G8 V6, LS7 Swap - sold - Toyota Supra Turbo (JZA80 1997) - stolen Others' featured cars: - Jake's Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33) "Wine Red" with Nismo RB28 Will the R33 ever be released? When? : The R33 is a long running work in progress that will be released when it's done, and not a moment sooner. I'm definitely being a perfectionist about this, but I want this to be the mod the community deserves and expects, not merely the latest in a set of stop-gap mods. Will you be making a Mustang 2015 / S550? : Not after the large bunch of other stuff I'm planning to make is all done. Is that your mod in those screenshots? : Is it the Skyline R33, the Audi A5, the Crossfire, the Supra JZA80 (with Bigg Boss93) or one of the ones I've released (like the Mustangs)? If so, yes. If not, probably not; search the GOM and VStanced downloads sections for it. Mustang mod updates? : A new SN95 1995 Mustang mod is planned (the original wasn't mine); a Foxbody remake with LOD0 meshes is in the works, and will include more parts than the original version; and I am preparing updates to the SN95 2000, many of which are finished but not there yet.
Bigg Boss93 The Godfathers Posts: 4024 http://rdbl.co/1Hmg5XL Location: Italy - Sardegna Occupation: Swimming out of the shit pool Age: 30 V$: More than you can afford, pal.	#2 2018-11-12 15:49
	Inb4 obscene questions
	With so much drama in the V-S-T, it's kinda hard being Bigg B-O-double-S-ninetythree Boss'Crew
NK748 Moderators Posts: 413 Location: Belgium Occupation: nk748 Age: 43 V$: A lot	#3 2018-11-12 17:04
	Too late, i do know one already but in the opposite way woman->man. If you feel more complete with that, then it's good for you! *EDIT: wow this message seemed rude IMO. I don't mean no offense, i'm cool with it * This post was edited by NK748 (2018-11-12 17:21, ago)

Porsche911man Members Posts: 84 Location: United States Chicago Occupation: Automotive Engineer Age: 26 V$: 11495	#4 2018-11-12 18:35
	This doesn't change a thing on how i feel about you or your work:YOU'RE AWESOME. And about this country and anybody that's against the LGBT community:FUCK THEM. Plus, i have a best friend in real life that i consider a brother that's gay. He's saved my ass more times than i can count.
	Anything worth doing is worth overdoing. Owned Cars: 2002 Nissan Skyline GTR R34 V-SpecII Black 1991 Nissan Silvia Q's Diamond Pkg 1994 MK4 Toyota Supra RZ Weekly pay:V$575
Lagano Members Posts: 1739 Location: Slovenia West side Occupation: Taking it easy Age: 24 V$: :$V	#5 2018-11-13 16:34
	You're finally back! I had no idea you'd return in this way though. It's good that you told this because like you said, people here would still think you're a guy. Why did you decide for such a change? I mean, it's good to change things up sometimes but this is a pretty big one! Anyway, just stay the same you as you've always been and hope to see you here some more!
	Art of Wheel \| ★ Opposite Style ★
RedCarDriver Moderators Posts: 1211 Location: United States Arizona Occupation: it's complicated... more complicated than my relationships Age: 30 V$: 86310	#6 2018-11-14 00:58
	Thanks for the support, folks! # Lagano : You're finally back! I had no idea you'd return in this way though. It's good that you told this because like you said, people here would still think you're a guy. Why did you decide for such a change? I mean, it's good to change things up sometimes but this is a pretty big one! If you're asking why I decided to transition in the first place, it's kind of a long story. I always felt like something wasn't right with me. I had plenty of clues what that was, especially when I was really little and didn't see anything wrong with it - but then I realized that people did see something wrong with it, so for the longest time, I just kind of made myself forget about it. As a guy, I just really didn't care about anything, because I didn't care about the person I was trying to be. I would try to imagine the future, trying to figure out what would make me happy, and every time I would get stuck on "oh, but I still have to be a guy" and suddenly I didn't want to see that future any more. Then I read some things and met some people, and I realized that I could change that, and suddenly I cared about things like I never really had before. That was when I realized I had to go through with it. If you're asking why I decided to tell all of you - I realized that I hadn't been spending as much time on here or on VStanced's Facebook page as I had wanted, and it was pretty obvious right away that the reason why was because I was still trying to be the same person I thought I was in 2012 or so. I hadn't actually been that person for years, at least not to me. And if people wanted to know how I was doing, how my life had been going since the last time I showed up, I realized I basically couldn't talk about 80% of it. So it was really tiresome to try and make appearances here. I realized that it was actually easier just to tell all of you, if I wanted to stay around. Anyway, just stay the same you as you've always been and hope to see you here some more! :) Thanks! Hopefully I will be around more. That's the idea, at least.
	My Roleplay Thread Roleplay set roughly in a fictionalized version of Phoenix, Arizona. The time varies, with a lot of flashbacks / stories told through old photos as well as flash forwards to later times, but is intended to be one continuous story. My character is about 5 years older than myself, and considerably richer. lol. I have a couple of other made-up characters for the RP too. Current cars: - Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33 1996 S2) - Toyota Supra (JZA80 1993) - auto N/A; work in progress Shop drift car: Nissan Skyline GTS25t 2JZ Swap (ECR33 1994) Previous cars: - Nissan 240SX RHD Conversion / RB Swap - parted out - Pontiac G8 V6, LS7 Swap - sold - Toyota Supra Turbo (JZA80 1997) - stolen Others' featured cars: - Jake's Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33) "Wine Red" with Nismo RB28 Will the R33 ever be released? When? : The R33 is a long running work in progress that will be released when it's done, and not a moment sooner. I'm definitely being a perfectionist about this, but I want this to be the mod the community deserves and expects, not merely the latest in a set of stop-gap mods. Will you be making a Mustang 2015 / S550? : Not after the large bunch of other stuff I'm planning to make is all done. Is that your mod in those screenshots? : Is it the Skyline R33, the Audi A5, the Crossfire, the Supra JZA80 (with Bigg Boss93) or one of the ones I've released (like the Mustangs)? If so, yes. If not, probably not; search the GOM and VStanced downloads sections for it. Mustang mod updates? : A new SN95 1995 Mustang mod is planned (the original wasn't mine); a Foxbody remake with LOD0 meshes is in the works, and will include more parts than the original version; and I am preparing updates to the SN95 2000, many of which are finished but not there yet.
BLiTZ Members Posts: 606 Location: Romania Occupation: disregarding females acquiring currency Age: 10 V$:	#7 2018-11-14 15:52
	Soooo...no homo I guess?
	2K00L4SK00L
svander Moderators Posts: 230 Location: Argentina Cordoba, Justiniano Posse Occupation: Modding SLRR Age: 27 V$:	#8 2018-11-14 15:58
	Happy birthday first, I really hope you have a nice one. Also, im always really happy to see people accepting their feelings and letting them out. Im happy hearing youre doing well and I sincerely hope you keep on doing as well. Also, hope you get your mods removed from cockzona. Who wouldnt want to? xD

IceD Members Posts: 1311 Location: Virgin Islands (u.s.) Graveyard Occupation: RIP Age: V$:	#9 2018-11-14 18:25
	Hey, glad to see you back, it's been quite a while. Hope you gonna stay and make some more good ass mods,even though i don't play slrr anymore.

RedCarDriver Moderators Posts: 1211 Location: United States Arizona Occupation: it's complicated... more complicated than my relationships Age: 30 V$: 86310	#10 2018-11-14 19:01
	Thanks again for the support, folks! # BLiTZ : Soooo...no homo I guess? :)) Not into dudes, don't worry about that one
	My Roleplay Thread Roleplay set roughly in a fictionalized version of Phoenix, Arizona. The time varies, with a lot of flashbacks / stories told through old photos as well as flash forwards to later times, but is intended to be one continuous story. My character is about 5 years older than myself, and considerably richer. lol. I have a couple of other made-up characters for the RP too. Current cars: - Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33 1996 S2) - Toyota Supra (JZA80 1993) - auto N/A; work in progress Shop drift car: Nissan Skyline GTS25t 2JZ Swap (ECR33 1994) Previous cars: - Nissan 240SX RHD Conversion / RB Swap - parted out - Pontiac G8 V6, LS7 Swap - sold - Toyota Supra Turbo (JZA80 1997) - stolen Others' featured cars: - Jake's Nissan Skyline GT-R V-Spec (BCNR33) "Wine Red" with Nismo RB28 Will the R33 ever be released? When? : The R33 is a long running work in progress that will be released when it's done, and not a moment sooner. I'm definitely being a perfectionist about this, but I want this to be the mod the community deserves and expects, not merely the latest in a set of stop-gap mods. Will you be making a Mustang 2015 / S550? : Not after the large bunch of other stuff I'm planning to make is all done. Is that your mod in those screenshots? : Is it the Skyline R33, the Audi A5, the Crossfire, the Supra JZA80 (with Bigg Boss93) or one of the ones I've released (like the Mustangs)? If so, yes. If not, probably not; search the GOM and VStanced downloads sections for it. Mustang mod updates? : A new SN95 1995 Mustang mod is planned (the original wasn't mine); a Foxbody remake with LOD0 meshes is in the works, and will include more parts than the original version; and I am preparing updates to the SN95 2000, many of which are finished but not there yet.
Holy Shit Man Moderators Posts: 2554 Location: Poland Occupation: Faking skills like a pro Age: V$: No	#11 2018-11-14 21:02
	I've just realised that your birthday is one day after mine, how cool is that

Benny Members Posts: 1143 Location: Bosnia And Herzegovina Lukavac Occupation: Electrictian Age: 30 V$: V$756	#12 2019-02-14 15:02
	Doesn't matter for me a friend is a friend no matter the gender
	Press on photo Role Play Weekly Income : V$1125/w
Sleepin mOnkey Members Posts: 2459 Location: Japan Universe, Milky way ,Solar system, Earth Occupation: Automotive engineer Student Age: 33 V$: 14.750	#13 2019-02-14 20:07
	as long as you are happy with yourself it's all good. I'm friend with some trans IRL and gotta say they are one of the best persons i know
	Roleplay: A engine Builder and tuner that lives in Japan and Builds cool stuff. Cars: Corolla Levin coupe Tog/show car 180SX s13 350hp SR20DET 6MT Babe 1 Supra Sz JZA80 2jz-Gte Vvt-i 2000's Hotboi 240sx Vert HOTBOI 2 *CLICCC...*

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The truth is that I, VStanced user RedCarDriver, am a transgender (transsexual) woman. My name is Lydia.

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